Continuation of “What’s Alive Across the ECC: Connection”
This moment is often described as a crisis in what's happening around us: climate, politics, institutions, polarization, loneliness. All of this leaves us exhausted. Beneath these lies a deeper crisis: a crisis of relationality. How we relate to our inner world, to one another, to the systems we move through, and to the living world that holds us all.
Men have been trained — explicitly or implicitly — to override relational signals in the name of responsibility, provision, loyalty, or leadership. We push through fatigue. We postpone grief. We manage tension, instead of staying present to it. Over time, this produces a particular kind of male instability: urgency, reactivity, withdrawal, or quiet resentment masked as competence.
What is needed at this time we are calling relational stamina. It is the capacity to stay present, grounded, and connected when things break down, remain unresolved, or cost more than they give. This journey does not ask men to abandon strength. It asks us to cultivate resilience within relationship.
Invitation
We invite you to gather or join a circle of men, local to you, to participate in-person. The retreat will be delivered live, remotely, via Zoom. We will practice a different rhythm — not a retreat from the world, but a return to the part of ourselves that the world's pace has worn thin.
If something in you is already listening for that quieter rhythm — less performative, more honest, more willing to stay — you are warmly invited.
The retreat will be held starting Friday evening, July 31, at 7PM ET. It will continue on Saturday August 1, from 8AM and conclude at 4PM ET. Our retreat Conveners will be Terry Chapman and Jim Burns.
Next Steps
The mechanics and requirements for this retreat are simple. Gather with or find a group of 3 or more men to meet in someone’s home or convenient location. If you have or participate in an existing Council — or desire to start one — invite those men to join. This will form your local container. Invite any men you know who would appreciate this experience (no Illuman connection is required).
The only technical requirement is a Zoom (internet) connection, a speaker that all can hear, and a screen large enough to see the other groups from across the ECC states that participate.
The retreat will be a facilitated, integrated experience, not a broadcast. All groups will actively participate via Zoom. Breakout sharing will occur locally. We expect this approach can become an effective, scalable way for the ECC to help deliver other local, in-person retreats — with your help.
For men in the Maryland, DC, Virginia area, please join us at Richmond Hill, in Richmond VA. Plan to arrive between 4 and 5PM on Friday July 31. There will be a 6PM dinner. The cost for Friday night lodging and three meals is $125.
For questions, or to sign up, please email Jim.Burns@Illuman.org.
