Upcoming Events

47 Midlife Crisis Passage
Nov
4
to Dec 16

47 Midlife Crisis Passage

Dates:
Tuesdays, November 4 – December 16, 2025
Time: 8:30–9:30 pm (Eastern)
Format: Online via Zoom
Cost: Free (Donations welcome)

Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a passage.

47: Navigating the Midlife Passage is a seven-week online offering for men who feel something shifting within—those navigating loss, transition, or simply the question, "What now?"

This cohort is designed for men in their 40s and 50s who are ready to engage in deeper reflection and intentional inner work. Rooted in Illuman’s Five Touchstones, we gather in ritual, story, and Council to explore identity, purpose, longing, and legacy—together.

Each week includes:

  • Guided themes and reflections

  • Film clips, poetry, and spiritual resources

  • A safe and confidential space to share your story

  • Council Circles for meaningful connection

  • A final ritual to honor the journey

Why join?

  • Reframe midlife as a sacred passage, not a problem to fix

  • Connect with a group of men walking a similar path

  • Uncover new insight, strength, and healing

  • Experience the gift of being seen and heard

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Scapegoating with Bob & Jack
Dec
6

Scapegoating with Bob & Jack

Throughout history and today Scapegoating has been a great social and personal evil. Rather than deal with our own weaknesses and negativity, we find it easier to transfer our guilt onto some other group, person or thing by singling that other out unmerited negative treatment. We seem to need another person or group to be against to form our identity or group.

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Soul Friends: A Men’s Writing Retreat Inspired by Celtic Wisdom
Jan
16
to Jan 18

Soul Friends: A Men’s Writing Retreat Inspired by Celtic Wisdom

  • The Bergamo Center for Lifelong Learning (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Join us for Soul Friends: A Men’s Writing Retreat Inspired by Celtic Wisdom, a weekend of reflection, creativity, and brotherhood. Come ready for a relaxed and inspiring time together as we journey as soul friends, writing our way into deeper presence, connection, and joy.

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CHOOSING PRESENCE | Awakening to God's Peace and Presence
Jan
23
to Jan 25

CHOOSING PRESENCE | Awakening to God's Peace and Presence

  • Carmelite Spiritual Center (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Join us January 23–25, 2026, at the Carmelite Spiritual Center for Choosing Presence: Awakening to God’s Peace and Presence. This men’s retreat offers guided practices, teachings, councils, nature time, and sacred ritual to help men slow down and reconnect with Divine Presence. Open to all men; registration required.

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Illuman SoCal Silent Retreat
Mar
6
to Mar 8

Illuman SoCal Silent Retreat

Registration Now Open!

Retreat Leader: Jim Clarke, Illuman Weaver

This is a wonderful opportunity to set time aside to just BE! To allow your mind and heart to wander, as you physically wander through the beautiful grounds of the retreat center and beyond in the upper desert landscape of the foothills of the San Gabriel Mountains in the Antelope Valley.

Retreatants will have five short inputs and have the option to participate in monastic prayer and Eucharist.

Time in silence is abundant.

All meals included.

Retreat Fee and Lodging:

  • Private room: $500.00

  • Double Room: $300.00

We have 19 rooms, and we hope that they fill up quickly to have the monastic setting for ourselves to enjoy.

$100 deposit will hold your room, whether you want a private or shared room. Payments in advance are requested so that all the rooms are paid for by February 1, 2026.

Make your plans to enjoy this special opportunity!

Register Today

March still has some wintertime, during which it often snows and brings beautiful, brisk weather to the desert retreat.

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Holy Ruckus: East Coast Collaborative
Mar
27
to Mar 29

Holy Ruckus: East Coast Collaborative

  • Sacred Mountain Waters: Wellness Sanctuary (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Under the auspices of IllumanECC, the Illuman brothers of NC and beyond are invited for a Holy Ruckus retreat weekend in Western NC to "regain a child-like sense of joy, happiness, and freedom to play again," with Matthew Lyda.

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Youth Rites of Passage: Colorado
Jul
22
to Jul 26

Youth Rites of Passage: Colorado

The Youth Rites of Passage (YROP) are initiation rites that have been adapted and adjusted for teenage boys from Illuman’s Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) model.

 

The preferred age range is 14-15.

 

These rites are intended to prepare each boy emotionally and spiritually for what lies ahead in adulthood. Through the use of trusted council, mythology, contemplative prayer, and simple ritual, the rites team and the elders will provide the structure and support for the boys to begin individuating away from the security of home and childhood, and step forward into a deeper understanding of their duty toward and benefits from the community that will continue to gather around them as men.

 

One (or more) adult males must accompany the boy: father, grandfather, uncle, surrogate, etc...

The fee is $175 per adult and $175 per teen boy.  

Scholarships are available.

To sign up, please email the coordinator, Matt Burch at matthewrburch@gmail.com.

By return email, you will receive an application and medical waiver which need to be filled out, signed and returned, instructions on how to submit payment, and directions to the retreat site.

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Great Lakes Men's Rites of Passage
Aug
12
to Aug 16

Great Lakes Men's Rites of Passage

  • Pilgrim Park Camp and Conference Center (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

The Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) experience is Illuman’s signature event, created by Franciscan Richard Rohr and friends, and offered in nine countries for thousands and thousands of men. This 5-day intensive helps men like you awaken to the adventure and mystery of your own masculinity, your deep spirituality, your place in the world, and the way of wisdom.

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Awaken 2025
Nov
6
to Nov 9

Awaken 2025

Not just a typical “conference,” Awaken incorporates the touchstones that make Illuman’s work unique: deep inner work featuring ritual, teaching, nature wanderings, poetry, drumming, song, small group Councils, and open time to just rest, recreate, and connect.

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Sober Initiation
Nov
3

Sober Initiation

12 Steps in 12 Months

Are you thirsty for freedom from addiction?
Are you longing to live more honestly and alive?
Is it time to let go of outdated habits that no longer serve you or the world?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, 12 Steps in 12 Months may be your next step.

If you're ready to commit to “betraying what betrays life” (Stephen Jenkinson), you may be prepared for a demanding initiatory experience of the 12 Steps, where we'll fuse:

  • nature

  • recovery intelligence

  • multiple-step traditions

  • self-compassion

  • death practice

  • community

into potent possibilities.

This Experience is for You if:

  • You have problematic sexual behavior and want to be free of it

  • You’ve tried to rid yourself of compulsions only to find them resurfacing

  • You desire comprehensive freedom

  • You’re ready to commit to a demanding (yet gentle) initiatory process of the 12 steps

Meet Your Guides

Matthew Ray Lyda
Matthew has been guiding men through the Gentle Path Through the 12 Steps for 7+ years. He is a certified Spiritual Director, Author, Retreat Leader, PSAP (Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional), RAE (Rainbow Advocate Educator), husband, father of three, lover of lands, and pickleball player. He has lived in Bangladesh and India and is trained by IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals) and Oasis Ministries. Matthew also serves as an initiator in Men's Rites of Passage work worldwide.

Phillip Noonan
Phillip has been a grateful member of Al-Anon for 8+ years, finding the 12 Steps to be life-saving and transforming. A graduate of the Living School at the Center for Action and Contemplation, he has been actively involved in men’s spiritual work for 20+ years. He is a husband, father of three, and grandfather of one. Pictured with one of his greatest teachers, Baxter.

The Approach

  • The Traumatic // Trauma-Informed

  • The Somatic // Body-Based

  • The Compassionate // Hospitality

  • The Vintage // Ancient Wisdom

  • The Ridiculous // Embracing the Unexpected

  • The Organic // Belonging Again

When Will We Gather?

  • First Monday of the Month

  • 7:30–9:30 pm Eastern

  • November 3, 2025 – November 2, 2026

What Men Are Saying

“A beautiful step away from the ‘normal’ of life. I love connecting and experiencing wholeness in ways outside the faith tradition I grew up in. Thank you.”
— Ian Beachy, Ohio

“It was a good process... beginning the work that I am sure will continue day by day.”
— Tim Feng, Pennsylvania

“Well worth it. It helped me to have a deeper appreciation for the 12-step process.”
— J.P.

What’s Included

  • 24 hours of live group interaction on Zoom

  • Online email-based recovery immersion course (valued at $200)

  • Access to more than 5 hours of exclusive online video teachings

Register

👉 https://www.recoverthewild.com/soberinitiation

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Beyond Desire & Diminishment: Finding New Intimacy and Generativity as We Age
Oct
24
to Oct 26

Beyond Desire & Diminishment: Finding New Intimacy and Generativity as We Age

Hosted by Illuman of Texas
📍 McKinney Falls State Park, Austin, TX
📅 October 24–26, 2025
🕐 Begins 1 pm Friday · Ends 12 pm Sunday (Central Time)

Overview

An event for initiated men or those sponsored by an initiated man

We have been given sacred gifts of desire, passion, and sensuality. The energetic pull of these divine offerings leads us into connection, intimacy, and procreation. Yet we struggle with the natural expression of these powerful attributes as a consequence of cultural conditioning, abuse, neglect, or any combination of these woundings.

As our physical capacities diminish through changes in health or the passage of time, we confront profound shifts in how our desires manifest. Often, we face the grief inherent in the losses these changes may bring. Rather than fully feeling this grief, which can serve as a portal to expanding consciousness, we are conditioned to fight our aging process, cling to youthfulness, and avoid the spiritual transformation of our own journey into dying.

Unburdened by the compelling and sometimes consuming nature of desirous longings and erotic preoccupations that might have dominated our younger decades, new possibilities in intimate relating may emerge in concert with our diminishments. This offering invites us to explore this realm of our maturation.

                       

Guided by Illuman Elders Glenn Siegel and Jonathan Miller, Beyond Desire and Diminishment offers a highly experiential immersion that allows participants to explore deep questions of intimacy and sexuality, including loss, grief and hope.

We will be invited to:

  • Ground ourselves in the gifts we all carry and receive

  • Grieve for unfulfilled longings, what has been lost, or what never came to pass

  • Explore realms of intimacy beyond sexuality based on climax

  • Find our creativity and generatively in the midst of waning vitality & desire

We do not want cost to prevent any man from attending.  Scholarships are available.  If you would like to request a scholarship, please email  illumanoftexas@gmail.com 

NOTE: This event is for initiated men or for men sponsored by another initiated man.

The event will be held at McKinney Falls State Park, just outside of Austin. We encourage you to familiarize yourself with the park via the website, and the check-in and out procedures. 

Over and above our JOI registration fee of $160.00 there is a daily Park Fee of $6.00 for which you are responsible to pay to the park upon entrance. If you are a frequent user of the state park system, you may either have or want to purchase a SP Pass that allows you to forego the daily Park Fee. The SP Pass also covers the daily fee for persons with whom you are carpooling. Great reason to plan to ride with others. 

We reserved five (5) cabins, numbered 1-5 on the park map. Each of these accommodate four (4) participants in either bunk beds or four single detached beds.

We want to support those that cannot sleep in tents due to physical or medical issues. Therefore, as you complete the registration form, indicate the requirement to have indoor accommodation.

We have six (5) camps sites, holding a total of 40 men. Please know the park website sets the number of participants for the campsites and limits the number of tents by restricting tents to the tent pad- (16 x16 sq. feet). 

>GET TICKETS NOW!<

Contact: Illumanoftexas@gmail.com

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Wisdom of the Wilderness: Turning to Our Wild Teachers
Oct
10
to Oct 12

Wisdom of the Wilderness: Turning to Our Wild Teachers

  • Pilgrim Park Camp & Conference Center (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Join us this fall for Wisdom of the Wilderness—a weekend retreat led by guide Steve Thomas and hosted by Illuman of Illinois.

Returning to Pilgrim Park, our beloved liminal home amid the river valleys of northern Illinois, we will step into a full immersion with the natural world—a space of wandering, reflection, and soulful renewal.

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Youth Rites of Passage Michigan 2025: Drum Making with Dads or Mentors
Oct
4
to Oct 5

Youth Rites of Passage Michigan 2025: Drum Making with Dads or Mentors

In a world that often leaves young men to find their way alone, Youth Rites of Passage (YROP) offers a sacred invitation: a shared journey between a teenage boy and his father or mentor. This 24-hour experience is intentionally designed as a threshold moment—an opportunity to mark the movement from adolescence into deeper maturity through hands-on ritual, storytelling, reflection in nature, and the building of a ceremonial drum.

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First Rites Virginia 2025: Young Men Rising
Oct
3
to Oct 5

First Rites Virginia 2025: Young Men Rising

First Rites: Young Men Rising is a three-day camping experience to guide boys through the essential and sacred transition from boyhood to adolescence. Grounded in the tradition of rites of passage and rooted in the belief that every young man deserves intentional moments of reflection, challenge, and belonging, this experience invites boys to step more fully into who they are becoming.

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The Prophet's Path:  Evolution In The Male Jourey
Oct
1
to Oct 5

The Prophet's Path: Evolution In The Male Jourey

At certain moments in a man’s life, the path forward is no longer clear, and the call to deeper wisdom becomes undeniable. The Prophet’s Path: Evolution in the Male Journey is an invitation to explore this liminal space—where growth, transformation, and surrender intersect.

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Illuman NorCal WELCOME: A Gathering for Men in Uncertain Times
Sep
27

Illuman NorCal WELCOME: A Gathering for Men in Uncertain Times

We are living in uncertain times. WELCOME is an opportunity to center, gather, and connect with other men to speak and listen to stories and experiences about how to survive and thrive in times like these.

What: A gathering and picnic for all men seeking a deeper spirituality and those interested to learn about Illuman.

When: Saturday, September 27, 2025, 9:30 - 3:30
Where: Joaquin Miller Park, 3590 Sanborn Drive, Oakland - Pinewood Picnic Site
Who: All men are welcome. No previous participation in men's work or Illuman necessary

What to Bring: A hat, a folding chair and (if you have one) a drum

Suggested Donation: $25 includes lunch

Details: This event is for men with a history of involvement with Illuman and for newcomers interested in investigating what Illuman has to offer.

Time together will include drumming, time for meditation, personal sharing, laughter,
small group interaction, a picnic lunch, and an opportunity to appreciate the beauty of
nature.

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Southwest MROP
Sep
17
to Sep 21

Southwest MROP

  • St. Crispin’s Conference Center and Camp (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

For the first time, Illuman’s foundational Men's Rites of Passage (MROP) will be held in Oklahoma at St. Crispin’s Conference Center and Camp. Nestled in central Oklahoma’s rolling, wooded hills and featuring three pristine, spring-fed lakes, this scenic location offers the ideal backdrop for this life-changing spiritual journey.

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A Father For Generation Alpha
Sep
2
to Oct 28

A Father For Generation Alpha

Dates:
Tuesdays, September 2 – October 28, 2025
Time: 9:00–10:00 pm (Eastern)
Format: Online via Zoom
Cost: Free (Donations welcome)

What kind of father does the next generation need?

A Father for Generation Alpha is an 8-week online series for men raising young children—especially those with kids born in 2010 or later. Together, we’ll explore what it means to show up with presence, intention, and heart in the sacred task of fatherhood.

Rooted in Illuman’s Five Touchstones, this experience weaves together story, ritual, spiritual practice, and honest brotherhood. It’s not about being a “perfect” dad. It’s about becoming a more grounded, generative one—connected to your values, your children, and a circle of men walking the path with you.

Each week includes:

  • Thoughtful themes and guided reflection

  • Tools and practices for meaningful fatherhood

  • Small group Council circles

  • Space for laughter, struggle, and support

Why join?

  • Reconnect with your deeper purpose as a dad

  • Share the joys and challenges of parenting with others

  • Learn to lead your family from a place of presence

  • Experience the power of being seen, heard, and supported

Learn More & Register
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Australia MROP
Aug
12
to Aug 16

Australia MROP

The Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) is a five-day, four-night experience grounded in the wisdom of ancient initiation. It is not a retreat, lecture, or workshop. It is a sacred threshold—a chance to awaken the soul and remember who you are.

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Ireland MROP
Jul
23
to Jul 27

Ireland MROP

In today’s world of speed, distraction, and disconnection, many men never experience an intentional rite of passage. They move through life without being witnessed, without being challenged, without ever fully stepping into the depths of their own soul’s journey.

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Youth Rites of Passage Texas 2025
Jul
9
to Jul 13

Youth Rites of Passage Texas 2025

Rooted in Illuman’s Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) and adapted specifically for teen boys, this four-day, three-night experience helps young men ages 16 and 17 take a meaningful step toward maturity. Through nature-based rituals, storytelling, council circles, contemplative space, and trusted elder guidance, YROP invites boys to explore their inner world and take responsibility for the kind of men they are becoming.

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The Ocean of God’s Love: A Men’s Writing Retreat Inspired by Rumi
Jun
27
to Jun 29

The Ocean of God’s Love: A Men’s Writing Retreat Inspired by Rumi

At our writing retreat, we will open our hearts to one of the most beloved poets of all time. Rumi may have lived an ocean away, yet his metaphors and vivid images of life, love, and God are as stirring today as they were when he wrote them 800 years ago. We will seek to let this poetic mystic illuminate our lives as we follow his universal call and share the specifics of our own stories. Capturing our thoughts through poetry and journaling, we shall connect with other men throughout this engaging weekend retreat.

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Young Men’s Rites of Passage by Illuman of WA
Jun
25
to Jun 29

Young Men’s Rites of Passage by Illuman of WA

For young men ages 18–25, this four-day Rites of Passage is an invitation to step across a threshold and into a deeper understanding of what it means to be a healthy, whole man in today’s world.

Rooted in ancient wisdom and guided by seasoned elders, this journey helps young men explore life’s transitions, uncover their unique gifts, and find their belonging—in the natural world, in community, and within themselves.

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Great Lakes MROP
Jun
18
to Jun 22

Great Lakes MROP

  • OSPREY WILDS ENVIRONMENTAL LEARNING CENTER (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Join us for the Men's Rites of Passage (MROP), a powerful five-day experience designed to guide men through a significant spiritual and personal transition. This immersive journey is ideal for men who are spiritually searching, have engaged in men’s inner work, and are open to transformation.

Participants should be prepared for physical challenges, including hiking, crawling, and fasting, and must have the mobility and health required for these activities.

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West Coast MROP
Jun
11
to Jun 15

West Coast MROP

The West Coast Men's Rites of Passage (MROP) / Umbrales is a unique five-day ceremonial event designed for men ready for a significant life transition. Rooted in the Judeo-Christian Catholic tradition, this transformative experience integrates elements of ritual, reflection, and wilderness immersion to help men reconnect with their inner self and their journey.

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Exploring the Enneagram with Nature as a Guide
May
16
to May 18

Exploring the Enneagram with Nature as a Guide

Join us for a weekend retreat where the wisdom of the Enneagram meets the healing and insight of time spent in nature. Through teachings, ritual, music, story, and solo time outdoors, this retreat offers a grounded, embodied approach to spiritual growth.

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Pacific Northwest MROP
May
13
to May 17

Pacific Northwest MROP

This immersive experience is set in the beautiful surroundings of Sky Camp Retreat Center, offering a tranquil space for introspection, growth, and connection with other men on the same journey. This is an opportunity to embrace vulnerability, release what no longer serves, and step into a renewed sense of life and belonging.

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Recovery Monastery
May
12

Recovery Monastery

Recovery Monastery is a 12-month, online cohort for men committed to long-term recovery and personal growth. Led by Matthew Lyda, long-time Illuman leader and ritual elder, this course invites men into a deeper, rewilded experience of recovery. Inspired by the rhythm and intention of traditional monastic life, this year-long experience offers structure, community, and sacred space for reflection, challenge, and restoration.

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47 - Midlife Crisis Passage
May
6
to Jun 17

47 - Midlife Crisis Passage

Are you feeling stuck, restless, or searching for “something more” in the middle years of life? Join 47 – Navigating the Midlife Passage, an online community for men navigating the challenges and opportunities of midlife.

Together, we’ll explore themes of renewal, purpose, and connection through the guidance of Norman Fischer’s Sailing Home and other wisdom traditions.

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Elders Rites of Passage
May
6
to May 10

Elders Rites of Passage

  • Johnsonburg Camp & Retreat Center (map)
  • Google Calendar ICS

Join us at Johnsonburg Camp & Retreat Center in Johnsonburg, New Jersey for a five-day intensive that serves those beginning or already on the eldering journey.

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Cultivating Community in a Time of Division
May
3

Cultivating Community in a Time of Division

We live in an era marked by deep division and isolation. For many men, the call to live more authentically is met with few models and even fewer companions.

In this half-day gathering, we invite you to step away from the noise and enter a space of connection, reflection, and honest conversation. Together, we’ll explore what it means to cultivate community as men—especially in a culture that often asks us to go it alone.

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Watering Hole Event: A Journey with Dr. Randy Woodley
Mar
21

Watering Hole Event: A Journey with Dr. Randy Woodley

Join us as we enter the warmth of the spring season together with music, connection, and wisdom from nature. Led by CAC affiliate faculty, author, and Cherokee descendant, Rev. Dr. Randy Woodley, this event invites us to learn how Indigenous values and lifeways offer profound guidance for living in harmony with the Earth.

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